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Christian's guide to

end of life


What every Christian needs to
know about engaging with modern medicine in the face of serious illness or frailty. Changing the culture of death in America one Christian family at a time. 
Forms didn't work for Hattie's mom and they're not working today. Use this tool to lift a burden off of yourself and your family. Create the ultimate gift for family, friends, pastors and physicians.

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COVID has reminded us of our fragility and that there are no certainties in our future.


My Story

I'm Hattie Bryant. In 2010, I turned 60 and I remember saying to myself, “I have lived more years than I have left. Who is going to do for me what I did for my mom? Who will ask the hard questions?"

I began my professional career.
I've made my living as an adult educator.  I taught customer service, sales and leadership inside of companies and on convention platforms in 47 states. 
My husband and I began production of the television series, Small Business School.
With funding from IBM, Dun & Bradstreet, Verizon, Microsoft, Thomson Learning, Mass Mutual and Travelers, we filmed in 34 states and 150 cities to create more than 300 half-hour episodes that reached into most U.S. homes via some 250 PBS member stations. The show also aired around the world through over 1000 affiliates of the Voice of America-TV. The program aired until 2012.
I was given the Award of Excellence from the White House.
The award recognizes my success in bringing the story of small business to television. Content from the show was edited into video companions for fifty college textbooks and an online one-of-a-kind learning tool at SmallBusinessSchool.org.
My journey with "I'll Have It My Way" begins.
I begin work on the faith-neutral version of the book.
"I'll Have It My Way" is published.
immediately begin thinking about and working on "I'll Have It God's Way".

Why did the doctors do what they did and why do they keep doing what they do? What’s the difference between medical well-being and physical well-being? Finally, what, if anything, does my belief in Jesus Christ have to do with the choices I make while I am still healthy and when my health fails? 


Finding the answers to these questions for myself led me to national meetings of physicians, nurses and social workers. It led me back to school, where I studied at the University of Southern California graduate program in Gerontology.

After five years of study and at the counsel of physicians and nurses who mentored me, I wrote the faith-neutral book I’ll Have It My Way so that so it could be used in their offices and hospitals. I subsequently produced a lecture based on I’ll Have It My Way that airs on public television stations. I'll Have It God's Way is for Christians, many who face the same fears, questions and suffering as those without faith. I pray this study will deepen your faith in the promises of our great God as you look forward to your forever with him.

Who should do this study?
  • Anyone over 65 

  • Adult children of the elderly 

  • Family caregivers of the seriously ill or frail

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The Bible Study

The I’ll Have It God’s Way six-session Bible study is designed to be used with a small group. However, you can use it personally or engage your family as a group. It is especially appropriate for anyone over 65, any adult child of the elderly and anyone who is a family caregiver. You will discover it is a powerful communication tool to bring clarity to the way you want to engage healthcare and is best to do this while you're healthy! You will create the greatest gift you can ever give to your family, friends, physicians and clergy. Let knowledge and love cast out all fear.

Resources to use with this study


Book The book contains text, discussion questions, personal homework plus everything you need to create a clear and powerful no-fail Advance Directive. If you are one of the 25% of the American population that has an Advance Directive, here's the opportunity to confirm you have been specific enough in making your wishes known. You do not need an attorney, simply use the forms as directed.

Videos Each session starts with a video that contains information that is not in the written text. Some sessions have more than one video. These are all on one DVD for purchase and they are posted on this site free of charge. If a leader purchases the DVD for use with the group, anyone missing a session can come here to view what they missed or to review what they watched in the group session. Under "The Bible Study" tab above choose "Videos" where you'll find links to each lecture.

Music (optional) Music changes your brain chemistry. This is the reason I like to begin every study session with music! Suggestions for each session are provided and can be viewed free of charge.  Under "The Bible Study" tab above choose "Videos" where you will find links to the suggested music to open each session.

Advance Directives, even those prepared by attorneys, are often never seen or are ignored by physicians.

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it tends to make you miserable.


Richard Rohr, 

from his book Falling Upward

Too much death by default happens in the ICU

Death by default in the ICU is for those who won't think or talk to loved ones about how they want the end of their lives to unfold.

Here are some links to other online resources:

My | Golden | Rules

501(c)(3) supports The Give Away Project

This program is designed for healthcare organizations, churches and those working with seniors to obtain large quantities of the book for use with staff, patients and church members. 

We have a 501(c)(3) public charity, My Golden Rules, to administer "The Give Away Project." Larger order volumes are eligible for significant savings over the retail price. Contact us for specific pricing.

Hattie Bryant: 619-985-8001 hattie@illhaveitmyway.com

Marilyn Bromberg: 720-840-1141


Physicians don't make end-of-life healthcare decisions, you do.

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